Question 1

Question:

Are you cheating on your wife?

Answer

No. You probably have the following logical question - what am I doing here offering myself as a sperm donor:) For me, this is not cheating. I can only give sperm and confirm that I am in good health, after that - it is not my business anymore. I also did not come to this idea of being a sperm donor right away, at first I thought about it for about a year, read various articles and books on this topic. Maybe if I had a son - maybe it would be easier for me to divorce my wife and start a new family, but I have a daughter and I love her very much. There is a risk, of course, that everyone will find out sooner or later, but I accept this risk. I tried to talk to my wife abstractly and somewhat tangentially about anonymous sperm donation in special clinics, about surrogate motherhood - but she is against it. Although she is in favor of surrogate motherhood, but I am already against her eggs. She was diagnosed with an incurable disease, which is now found in only 1% of people on the planet, which manifested itself 9 months after giving birth to the child, while it is not treated and it is not known where it comes from and whether it is transmitted genetically to children (it is definitely not transmitted sexually - so don't worry about it, you won't catch it from me). I wanted to have at least 2-3 children, financially I can afford it without losing the comfort of life, but life turned out like this, so I am looking for options to solve my dreams. If I just leave the family, I'm afraid that my child just won't understand this and will hate me and I'll lose her forever (well, or she will start to understand it all, oriented after 30 years or when she herself faces something similar). Most people condemn only male infidelity. But for some reason, few people talk about women who cheat on their husbands. Or there are situations when a man is infertile, and his wife may and most importantly wants to have children, but at the same time she loves her husband as a person or is used to him or thinks about the opinion of people around her. But at the same time, no one thinks about her mental suffering regarding the desire to have her own child. Some problems with this can be solved by the medical clinics nowadays, but not in all cases, unfortunately.

Question 2

Question:

Do you already have children? Do you already have experience in sperm donation?

Answer

Yes, I have one healthy child. My wife and I managed to get pregnant in the first month of our regular sexual life. We were planning a child - we did all the necessary medical checkup and only then we started having unprotected sex.
Yes, I have experience in donation. I had such an experience with a woman from Poland. She is 30+, we exchanged recent test results. Everything was discussed as much as possible during our chatting via email. We met and showed each other the original tests, talked for a while and then realized that everything was fine. We managed to get pregnant from the first shot to our great surprise. Conception was an artificial method - I gave her sperm in a sterile container from a pharmacy. After that, I gave it to the woman and she inserted it into her vagina with the help of an ordinary 5 ml syringe. I didn't ask about the details of the procedure :) But a month later, she took a test - and it showed that she was pregnant. At the time I write this - she was about 4 months pregnant. After some time, she went to the gynecologist, did all the necessary tests and ultrasound - and for now everything is fine with her and her child.

Question 3

Question:

If everything works out, do you want to have regular contact with the child?

Answer

Regarding maintaining contact with the child, each situation should be discussed individually. Ideally, I am in favor of pure donation without further contact and any claims. My wife does not know about my intentions to be a sperm donor and to have several more children. She knows that in general I dreamed of having more children, she also dreamed of it, but unfortunately, it turned out the way it did... And I don't want her to find out. I want to live peacefully and raise my own “officially born in marriage” child. I don't want to somehow psychologically traumatize my child at an early age. Regarding your future child, if it is from me, it is enough for me to know that it was born alive and healthy and that you will take care and love this child. I do not reject the fact that one day everyone will know about everything - but it will be later…I hope it will not happen, but morally, I am ready for this. I'm not doing anything illegal. You want to have a child without unnecessary claims. And I also want to have a child - without any further claims, alimony or any other financial obligations. If this option suits both of us, then I don't see any problem with it. Many children live with one parent, the number of divorces among families reaches 50%. Yes, it definitely leaves a certain mark on the child's life, but no one can guarantee even 100% marriage.

Question 4

Question:

I am married. The man is infertile. Are you OK to talk with my husband if he wants to talk with you?

Answer

Usually meeting new people is quite a stressful situation, especially when we expect it for a long time. Especially on such delicate issues as fertilization. I prefer communication directly with the person who is going to get pregnant. Men are usually more aggressive and I wouldn't want to get into a bad situation. But we can discuss it over video if that's appropriate. Or he can write a list of issues that bother him. The main thing is that he perceives it with an open mind and tries to reject some patterns: because I imagine what is happening in his head, and if he is jealous of you, then a situation may arise that we will have some kind of conflict on some issues of guaranteeing security and trust regarding your potential visit to me and he is even more rooted in the opinion that it is all dangerous, etc. But it will be an interesting experience. I hope we will have a positive impression from this. But in general, it is better to talk very delicately about such topics with a man. If the relationship with the husband is strained due to the issue of his infertility, then, in my opinion, it is better for everyone to separate in order to find their own happiness, because such a relationship will not end in anything good. Although it is not for me to judge. Everyone decides for themselves.

Question 5

Question:

An anonymous donor from an official sperm bank VS an anonymous donor whom you know personally.

Answer

For some reason, I always thought that it was easier for a woman to come to a sperm bank and do an official artificial insemination procedure. Choose any donor from the catalog according to certain characteristics and that's it.

Until I read this book:

there is only Polish and Dutch version of this book, but through Google Translate you can translate the PDF book into any language, the translation will be a little bit bad, but quite understandable:

KAMIL BAŁUK - WSZYSTKIE DZIECI LOUISA (https://dowody.com/ksiazka/kamil-baluk-wszystkie-dzieci-louisa/)

https://lubimyczytac.pl/ksiazka/4184589/wszystkie-dzieci-louisa

This book is about how a dishonest sperm bank director in order to make more money from insemination in his sperm bank - impregnated more than 200 women with the sperm of a man from another country who had some genetic abnormalities. 20+ years later it was exposed and these children found each other and their biological father through DNA testing. A very interesting book - I recommend it.

Also here is a book: My daddy's name a donor

Question 6

Question:

Why do you want to have more children? Why is your one child not enough for you? Many families have only one child and everything suits them.

Answer

Well, let's start with the fact that all people are different and everyone has different desires... I led a "correct life" all my life, I had no bad habits, I looked after myself. I studied well, I was very inquisitive and free-thinking,
I clearly saw what I wanted. And in terms of family - I wanted to find what I would like to do first - I found it. Then I earned money for house and a car - to have a personal place to bring my future family.
I wanted to find the love of my life, get married and have at least 2-3 children. Everything happened as I planned, with one small exception - after the birth of the child, my wife was diagnosed with an incurable disease, and she can no longer have children. And what's worse - which is purely theoretical with a chance of 1 to 85 – my child may have the same disease someday as her mother and my child may become disabled person. It is very difficult for me to accept this fact. I don't know how I will handle this... But this is my child and I love her very much and want to be near her. A man can be an official sperm donor in the clinic up to the age of 35 in most cases, sometimes up to 40. I am 34 now. For me, this would be an ideal option for safety. But unfortunately, I cannot become a sperm donor in my country, because there is currently a war going on there, and to become sperm donor in Poland a man needs to know the Polish language on good level and have a permanent residence permit, which you must wait for a very long time in Poland. Therefore, logically, my chances are quite low here. Then I accidentally came across web sites where you can be a private sperm donor - that's why I chose this option for myself, after thinking about it for a long time.

Question 7

Question:

I want to have children, but my husband is infertile. And he is against such fertilization methods. What shall I do?

Answer

I understand that this is quite a difficult moral dilemma, especially when you love a person. As for the man, I have a story for you: I talked with one woman, she was 40+ years old, she married a man in her 20s with a good social position and salary, who had two children from his first marriage, she lived with him for 8 years, he told her that he wanted children from her, she raised his children, took care of them (they did not want to live with their mother for some reasons), and then he told her that he no longer want children with her. She broke up with him, she felt sorry for the years of her life spent on him, that he deliberately deceived her as a result. After him, she needs to have some break in relationships for another 5 years, didn't want to meet anyone, and then somehow it just didn't work out. And here she is 40+, the years go by, and now it is practically impossible to find someone adequate (most normal men are usually married by the age of 30), and a woman has everything in terms of material status and career, but the main thing (children is her dreams) is not there… life is a bitch...

Question 8

Question:

Are you vaccinated against COVID?

Answer

Yes, I am vaccinated. But even before the vaccination, I got sick with COVID without the vaccine. I was vaccinated then for two reasons: I didn’t want to bring to the house this disease, because I didn’t want that my child was ill, and the second reason - without vaccination there were many different prohibitions for the unvaccinated, so I had to do it – to live a regular life. Although I remember how everyone was suspicious of these extremely fast vaccines. But 4 years have passed since the vaccination - and everything is fine, I do not feel any problems with my health. I also have all the necessary standard vaccinations according to the vaccination calendar. Since these vaccines were new, I did all the health check before vaccination. And then after 2 months - repeated tests - and everything is fine, no changes. And besides, after that I had the experience of successful fertilization. There are also many of my friends who has been vaccinated with other vaccine types - and they also had healthy children.

Question 9

Question:

Do you have any requirements for the mother of "extramarital" child?

Answer

Yes, I have some requirements.
- First of all, health: physical and mental health. Regarding the mental health - it is somehow felt by itself during communication.
Regarding the physical health: I am interested in such parameters as age, height, body weight, it is necessary that the body mass index be within reasonable limits and does not greatly exceed the maximum limits of the average norm. A full-length photo and a portrait are very desirable, so that I can see the person and understand whether I like her or not. We should at least be a little bit attractive to each other. I want healthy and beautiful children.
Absence of bad habits: alcohol, smoking, drugs, etc. I provide at my own expense the entire package of all my health analyzes since 2018 up to the freshest one. I will send it to you email upon your request. I expect the same step in response from the woman. Without tests, I do not continue. The minimum I want to see is: general blood and urine analyses, biochemistry of blood package, hepatitis B, C, HIV/AIDS, syphilis, chlamydia and the entire sexually transmitted disease (STDs) package, glucose, TORCH. At least for the last year, but as far as STDs are concerned, they are the most recent ones before conception (and it doesn't matter which method is artificial or natural). Ideally, an ultrasound of the abdominal organs and any additional tests that you are willing to show to also confirm your state of health. Absence of cancer, diabetes and mental illnesses (such as schizophrenia, epilepsy, etc.). Why am I asking for these tests - because these are risks for both me and the child. I want that the child has the maximum safety in terms of health. Since such a private donation is not protected by law, I want to be as sure as possible that the child will be as healthy as possible and from a woman I like, that I will not regret about my sperm donation help. But you also should first of all be interested that child being as healthy as possible - this is the first guarantee of happiness. I hope for decency on your part in all these matters. And if I knew you personally, we were dating, it was a standard family – in such case husband can somehow influence the actions of the wife, and in the case of sperm donation - it is a quick meeting, and you know almost nothing about the person. Therefore, for me, the state of a person's health can already tell a lot. Without this, I do not agree to continue at all. Some women think that a sperm donor is just some fertilizing bull - but this does not apply to me, I do not want to have million children, I want to have several, but with the most suitable women for me. Even if I never see my children – it’s important for me to sleep well. I don't want to get emotionally attached. You pay for your tests yourself. All contact data on the tests - you can sketch to preserve anonymity. You can leave only 2 numbers or letters, so that later we can check whether it is not a fake during a real meeting.
If everything is fine according to the analyzes and our general communication, then we can still call via video or audio to talk and get to know each other better. It is also important for me to understand what a person do for a life, what are the plans for earning until the first 3 years of the child, until the child goes to kindergarten? Why did it happen that you are still single, describe your story? Why in such a way, and not in real life with a more traditional way, why sperm donation?

Question 10

Question:

How did you understand that you are adequate normal people? How did you manage to decide for yourself - is it worth having common children with this person?

Answer

About how we realized that we are adequate and that we fit each other... it is difficult to describe in words:) This is the experience of each of us throughout our lives, how we choose our circle of communication. And let's be honest - the concept of adequacy is very vague, what is normal for some people - for another person it can be a "complete idiot/goat/asshole":)) Absence of mental illnesses - clear signs of which I think are quite easy to see. I don't know how it happens with women. I will describe my approach to choosing a person. I will say right away – my choice of a girl for candidacy to have children with her from the point of view of: 1. anonymous sperm donation and 2. Co-parenting and maintaining contact with her and 3. a regular marriage or for dating and in different years - these are all very different concepts)) I had a lot of different requirements for a girl when I was choosing whom to marry and whom to data) As for donation --- the most important things for me are: 1. appearance - the girl must be physically attractive to me, no matter what, that children will be not beautiful) 2. relatively healthy - and the healthier it is according to medical parameters (what can be checked) the better. These two are enough. Further, during communication, general social communication and behavior is checked - it is too long to describe and it is already my personal life experience, but even half an hour - an hour of communication in a cafe - is enough for me to understand that this is an ordinary person, and not someone who escaped from a mental hospital or some kind of antisocial person with problems. Well, after that I weigh all the risks for myself - will I be ready to communicate with this person or our children in any way, in case my anonymity is somehow lost. I must understand that I will not regret this decision. Everything happens) Some Polish women have a stereotype of Ukrainians as second class, wage earners, etc. and even through Google Translate, I need to somehow assure them that I am a normal person and that they should not feel that they will have a child from some alcoholic stranger from Ukraine. After all, everyone wants (hopefully) for their children to be from a beloved, beautiful, intelligent person with a good position in society. And the majority is still looking for husband neither than sperm donor.

Question 11

Question:

How does artificial insemination work? What is the action plan?

Answer

First of all, you read all the information I have given you. I made it specifically to free up more time for myself. Because it just seems like there are hundreds of women and men around who want to get to know each other. This is all quite a long and very emotionally costly process. At least for me. That's why I described it here - if the conditions I offer here are suitable for you. If you like me - then you write to me on my email, which is in the contact information, all the details about yourself and what questions you have. I am sending you my photos and photos of the health tests. If you like everything, you can also send me your photos and test results in response. If after that we liked each other - we talk about all the questions we would have to each other. We can make a video or audio call. If everything is fine - we plan offline meeting (it is possible that it immediately coincides with your ovulation, so we can make everything in one meeting not to waste extra time). Then we agree on a convenient place for meeting at least a few days in advance. When we meet, we can talk in a crowded place or in a cafe over tea.
If everything is OK after that, we proceed to fertilization.

I can offer several options for the meeting place: (more detailed options will be discussed in each specific case, so that everyone is comfortable)
1. Everything happens in some cafe not far from the hostel or hotel or apartments. I can get the sperm in the toilet, and then you inject it yourself in your place alone. You will have about 20 minutes to do it to keep it fresh and alive.
2. You rent a hostel, hotel or apartment - we come together, I do my “work” in the toilet and give you fresh sperm in a sterile jar and leave you alone. Then you enter sperm by yourself at the destination :)
That’s all. Then we keep in touch - and you write to me, after 10-20 days - whether you managed to get pregnant or not. Well, after that we decide to repeat the procedure or not. I am currently ready to help you until you get pregnant.
After everything has worked out - we may no longer contact at all, but I would be very happy to receive periodically, at least before the birth, some information from you about your health condition and the condition of the child. Well, after the birth – some news from you that the child was born and everything is OK, the date of birth and gender, the name of child is optional.

Question 12

Question:

An important question for me regarding the column in the child's birth certificate: do you want to write down your surname in the column of the father in the certificate, or it doesn’t matter to you?

Answer

No. I don't want to enter my name and surname there. You can write whoever you want there. Moreover, in such a way I will not have the right to assert my rights to the child. So you can travel anywhere and you don't have to worry to take any permissions from the child's father. If on your part you want mandatory financial assistance for the child, then I, in turn, would like to have proof that the child is really mine (a DNA test or whatever is trending now to determine paternity). And yes - I have nothing against it if the child is fed, well-groomed, healthy and happy with the mother, where it will be better - whether it is your country of residence or some other, it makes no difference to me. I just want that you and your child – be happy and we don’t make problems to each other’s life.

Question 13

Question:

Don't you think it's selfish to have a child like this who will obviously have only one parent?

Answer

I thought about your words: it is very selfish to give birth to a child only for yourself, so that it does not have both parents and a happy family.
I have another question: how do you look at the fact that nowadays half of the families are getting divorced? What percentage of them are in terrible relationships with each other? How many of them do not agree with whom the child will be living? Everyone can manipulate their point of view. A child is emotionally torn between two parents, because child loves both parents equally. And how many parents does not pay alimony? In my opinion, it is better to have a child with a desired partner than to suffer all your life because of a bad relationships with a divorced partner. Imagine another situation: you got married and have children. Then you divorced on bad terms. Then you marry again and have new husband, but your ex-partner mindfucking the brains out of you and your new husband. Three people in a relationship is not the option that one would like) Once I accidentally met a very "interesting family", where the daughter stayed with dad, not with mom, because mom liked to go out for dates and arrange her personal life. At that time, this mother did not give consent for the child to leave the country, and when she left country with the father, mother declared her child to international police and the child was taken away from her husband. Then this man documented in court that he was normal and responsible person, not his ex-wife. As a result, the child stayed with the father. And all these problems were watched by his current new partner with her two children. In short, this is such a drama that is hard to imagine)
And how many children remain orphans - grow up without parents at all - and nothing happens, they grow up, some even become deputies, presidents, because life hardens them to survive. And how many children live in the daily quarrels of their parents and only dream of running away from home to escape this situation. I think you grew up in a very good, loving family. I look at the world a little differently. I believe that everyone should choose their own selfishness – after that everyone will be happy. Because this "sacrifice" for someone does not lead to anything good... Children grow up and go on with their lives and no one will thank you for your sacrifices. They will also make parents guilty, so relax:)
At one period of time, I read many books on philosophy, psychology, religion (most of them in audio format, when performing familiar work). After I decided to take the step of being sperm donor, I read several books about people who had done it, studies that looked at the emotional state of children from anonymous donors, as well as in couples where the parents were of the same sex. Long story short, I packed a lot information into my head and I hope that I will let my emotions go and they will not eat me) The most important thing that I don't want is an emotional swing. The way I see it is that we have a plan of action and we have to stick to it other way - things will go wrong.

Question 14

Question:

Why did you create this site? Have you decided that you are an "alpha male" and want to impregnate all the women on the planet?

Answer

I don't consider myself the best sperm donor in the world. I have absolutely no desire to impregnate all the women in this world. I'm not going to have a million kids. A several healthy children from women I am interested in and whom I will also like is quite enough for me. I'm not going to agree to all options in a row. I am also human and have the right to choose. I made this site exclusively for several purposes:
1. To stand out somehow from the huge number of sperm donors who just want free sex or who want to impregnate all the women on this planet, who are ready to lie to you about anything to achieve their goal. I wrote that I work in the IT field - accordingly, I made this web site to somehow prove to you that I am not an unemployed homeless person, or a person who does not know how to do anything, or not interested in any self-improvement.
2. Significant saving of my and your time. Firstly I didn't know anything and just chatted with women who were looking for sperm donors. Each such conversation takes a lot of emotions and time, but there are certain questions that are critical for most people and are often repeated. That's why I decided to answer them once - and a person can come in and calmly read for herself. And if this woman decides that I am suitable for her to begin conversation based on my outlook/ideology and what I have described - then we continue communication further. And at this time I can take care of my family, work and other interesting things:)
3. Here I also left links to some information that I read and that will be interesting for others - to understand whether donation is right for you or if you are better off looking for more traditional methods: such as a traditional family or at least co-parenting with relatively equal rights and responsibilities in front of child.

Question 15

Question:

You are from Ukraine? I do not want the father of my child to be a Ukrainian.

Answer

Very often I faced the fact that women from Poland ignored my messages (and I understand them, my message were written via Google Translate with errors). But there were some cases that treated my nationality very harshly, because they had a bad experience with people from my country who misbehaved when were drunk, or were uneducated, etc.
What I actually want to answer is that I felt simply wonderful in my country. I had a very good social position there. It is also good in Poland, but here I am an emigrant without a normal knowledge of the language from a third world country in which there is a war... I probably would not have deliberately moved from Ukraine to Poland. Most people come here to earn with hard and low-paid work - accordingly, the stereotype and attitude of Poles towards Ukrainians has developed accordingly. I moved here to save my family first of all, because when you hear every day that they are going to blow up a nuclear plant, or you see rockets flying in the sky like birds, and you have only one child, you look at this world differently. I want to say that people are different and you should not judge everyone by the same pattern. Before coming to Poland, I didn't know anything about the Volyn tragedy, in our schools these issues were not studied in history, but in Poland it is quite often written on cars... I have no relatives who live in western Ukraine, so it is far from me personally and I do not feel guilty for what a gang of some rebels did. I believe that if all people would go back in history less and dig into all those past tragedies, then there would be less enmity and claims regarding territories.
Also, regarding the fact that I am from Ukraine - I work here for other countries and pay taxes in Poland. My family and I do not receive any social benefits here. My taxes go to the development of Poland.
And in order to survive in your country, an emigrant needs to work 10 times more and somehow move around in your society in order to feel economically safe. That is, when you choose a foreigner - purely in theory, in terms of his development, he can be better than the average sperm donor from Poland. An expatriate donor will never pretend to be third in your relationship, because tomorrow he can move to another country. You may never see him again. It is also an important fact that if woman and man are genetically far and unrelated, the healthier their children will be born. Many scientists do not recommend marrying in one small village, for example, because everyone there has long been related to someone for 3-4 generations, and this increases the chance that there will be two identical genetic mutations and the child will have some health problems. Another advantage of an emigrant is the entrepreneurship and courage to go to another country for luck and somehow solve life's problems there. But at the same time, most of the people I met in Poland were very good people and this is definitely pleasing. Therefore, let's just treat each other as human beings - and everything will be fine between us :)

Question 16

Question:

Who is better to choose as a sperm donor: a single man, a married man or a couple of gay men? Who is better - a man of young or mature age?

Answer

In my opinion, the best choice for a sperm donor is a married man aged 27-35. Let me explain my logic: guys from 18 to 27 are mostly still emotionally immature and unstable. They like parties, alcohol, casual sex. The only plus they have is their youth and energy. They are not yet busy and promising. But this can expose you to catch some sexually transmitted diseases from them and it will harm your health and the health of the child. For them, the driver of everything is sex.
The second type is single middle-aged men - there is another problem here: these people might already be emotionally stable, they must somehow develop a career and status in society. But here another question arises: if they are lonely in their prime, what is wrong with them? Why didn't women choose them for the role of husband? What did they see in them so that they did not dare to create a family with them? In this case you must look carefully: what are the man's hobbies, what does he do in his free time? Men at this age also want sex, and if they do not have a family - they can use various dating web sites to engage in sex without obligations. There is also a high chance of catching some sexually transmitted infection.
Men of the same age who cheat on their women in the traditional way are also at risk of sexually transmitted infections. Plus, not everyone may like the moral side of such a man.
Men 40+ - if they are single, the same problems as in the previous categories. In this age chronic diseases begin to emerge if people do not monitor their health. At this age, sperm banks officially stop taking sperm from such men for donation, because the risk of various genetic mutations increases, and children with autism, Down syndrome and other abnormalities may be born, unfortunately.
Gay men - why should you beware of them? Because according to statistics, there is a higher percentage of HIV/AIDS and other diseases due to unprotected sexual intercourse. Because no matter what, the set of microorganisms in the anus and vagina is different, and doctors clearly does not recommend them to combine ... Although in the role of a father, they would probably be good. I have nothing against gays in any way, I'm just stating certain logical and proven facts and such information is easy to google. Why do doctors recommend that even little girls be washed with such a trick so that poop does not get on the pee? That's why it's just worth thinking about..
Now regarding men 27-35 years old who are married but help only by artificial method to get pregnant. I think this is the best option, for the reason that they have already achieved something in life, the state of their bodies is visible, they are still quite young and hardy, they are still in good health, they have a wife and children - and this will be a guarantee that they will have no motive to seek a relationships with you and get into your life. They have their families on which they spend their energy. In order to come up with an alibi in front of wife, they also need to have considerable intellectual abilities to plan and organize everything. Can it be considered treason that you want to have more children, but at the same time you do not physically have sex with another woman? That is, you are not emotionally attached to another person and remain faithful to your wife sexually and emotionally. Also, since sperm donor has a wife, he has relatively stable regular sex with one partner, so it doesn't make sense for you to worry too much that he will be looking for sex somewhere on the side. If he has children - this is also a plus, because it means that he is not barren/sterile. If he doesn't want to leave his family for you, it also says a lot about his parental instinct. If he was able to provide for his family and child and he can morally live normally with the fact of sperm donation - then I think that this is his moral right - what to do in this situation. But in any case, the final choice remains after the woman - and it is up to you to choose which sperm donor to choose. Most importantly, do not forget to request all the necessary health tests from the potential sperm donor, because the incubation period for many diseases can reach 6 months, and some can live and be carriers of HIV/AIDS for several years and even don’t know about this.

Question 17

Question:

Why don't you charge money for your services? Why do you help for free?

Answer

I consider it immoral to take money for this. How will you explain later to your child (sooner or later) that you paid some man some amount of money for her appearance. For me, this sounds very disgusting in my system of moral values. I believe that it will be better if the child really knows that his mother and some man really wanted this child and that he is not here only because of the desire of one of the parents, although the desire of one is enough. The only thing I expect is that the costs of your health checkup, the meeting place (hostel, hotel, apartments) and any specific tests that you only want to receive from me (in case mine will not be enough for you for some reason) are paid by you.

Question 18

Question:

Is it possible to get pregnant in another way, except for the usual sex?

Answer

Of course. Fertilization can be carried out by "home" insemination, that is, the introduction of sperm into the vagina near the cervix using a syringe.

Question 19

Question:

Is it possible to ask you to avoid sex or masturbation a few days before conception?

Answer

Yes. I try not to have sex/masturbate 3-5 days before the due date. However, it makes no sense to demonize this topic - a healthy man in his prime (which I am) produces enough sperm to successfully produce two full ejaculations a day.

Question 20

Question:

Can I expect anonymity? I don't want anyone to know about me using sperm donor’s help.

Answer

Yes, complete anonymity. What is between the recipient and me remains between the recipient and me only. In other words, I do not share email addresses, phone numbers, photos of children conceived with my help, etc. I guarantee you complete anonymity and expect the same from you.

Question 21

Question:

What do you expect from the recipient?

Answer

First of all, I expect a responsible approach to the topic. A person who decides to use my help should read everything I wrote on this web site and put this knowledge into practice, that is, make every effort to make fertilization happen. I will do my best from my side.
During the first meeting, we should talk a little – the option "we'll do it in 30 seconds" is unacceptable for me.
The option - "I have ovulation tomorrow or in a week, I can't miss it, but I don't have health test results and they won't arrive in time" - is excluded. Pregnancy is a responsible stage in a person's life. And it requires a responsible attitude so that no one has health problems.
"I know I'm healthy - I won't ask for any tests. I don't want to spend money on it" - believe me, I know a lot of cases among people I know who seemed to be healthy, but then in the initial stages of pregnancy the doctor found some kind of infection, and instead of giving birth naturally, they gave birth by caesarean section. Especially in the early stages, a woman's body simply begins to crash, because the child takes all vitamins and useful substances. The teeth and kidneys are the first to suffer. Before pregnancy, you should do a full health check-up, visit a gynecologist and a dentist. Because it is not always possible to give anesthetic anesthesia during pregnancy while being at dentist. You cannot drink many types of pills - you need to consult a gynecologist. If a person does not have the money to do the minimum set of research at least once a year - then I have very big doubts - how will this person be able to provide money for the child? Who and what does this woman hope for? You need to think about everything well. Where will you get money for the child during maternity leave? Will this money be enough for you? Who will help you with the child at least until the age of 3? Children often get sick - who will be at home with them during this time? It is very difficult to raise a child alone - and you should know about it. I personally take an active part in raising a child and providing a child with everything necessary, and I fully understand that children are a great responsibility and great expenses. That is why I am ready to be a sperm donor only without financial obligation, because I have no way to financially support several completely different families. It's one thing when it's even 5 children from one woman - and it's quite another situation when families are physically in different locations. And even if some woman somehow applies to such a donor for alimony, she must first somehow prove that the child really belongs to this donor, and secondly, the amount of alimony will be insignificant and will not do anything significant for you, but will attract another parent into your life on a permanent basis, and not the fact that your everyday life will benefit emotionally from it. Therefore, think twice about who you are looking for - a sperm donor without obligations, or co-parenting in equal proportions, or is there still hope for a traditional family somewhere?

Question 22

Question:

Is it possible to repeat AI insemination if it failed?

Answer

By starting cooperation with me, I am determined to help you with a successful conception.

Question 23

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Have you thought about what would happen if the child was born with some kind of abnormality?

Answer

Yes, I thought about such a scenario... Unfortunately, no one is protected from this. For my side, I can provide you with the maximum confirmation that my genes are good and that this should not happen.
But if suddenly there is such a situation that the doctor will offer you to have an abortion, because the fetus clearly has some deviations and the child will be born with a major form of disability - then I would recommend that it is better to have an abortion and not to torture either the child or yourself with such a life... But of course it is a woman's choice what to do - whether to keep the child or have an abortion in this situation...

Question 24

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I would like to use your help but with the natural method (sex) because it is more effective.

Answer

The insemination method is no less effective - you just need to make a little effort and take care of the nuances.
However, if your choice is still the natural method (sex), I'm sorry I can't help you. The absence of sexual contact with recipients is a guarantee of health for me (I will not get infected by anything).

Question 25

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I am a lesbian woman of non-traditional orientation (LGBT) - can I count on your help? We are a couple of lesbian women of non-traditional orientation and want children from the same donor – can you be our sperm donor?

Answer

Yes, of course:) I have absolutely no bad attitude towards your orientation. If you are healthy and pretty in my eyes - I can help you with fertilization and you’ll have a child from me :)

Question 26

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How can I contact you?

Answer

The very first and best option is to write me a letter by e-mail. I only ask - please write a lengthy letter, if you have read everything on my website - then you already know 90% of everything you need to know in general on this topic and about me. Instead, I don't know anything about you - so please write about yourself and your proposal in as much detail as possible. The more you write, the easier it is for me to trust you and make a decision.
I usually answer exactly within 1-2 days, sometimes several times a day.
If communication by email turns out to be successful, then we can move on to other types of communication: skype, telegram, messenger, facebook, instagram, WhatsApp or any other messenger.